Rediscovering Femininity: Embracing Your True Self in a Tough World
Have you ever felt like you're just one of the gang when you really want to be seen as yourself? Or maybe you've noticed that you don't quite click with others as much as you'd like. It's a common thread I hear from many women who come to me for advice on their personal style and self-presentation. They want to feel connected and understood, both by other women and men.
It's tough, though, because sometimes it feels like we live in a world where being a woman means acting like a man, especially at work. But what works in the office doesn't always help us in other parts of life, like making friends or finding love.
Think about the old Chinese idea of yin and yang. They're like two sides of a coin, one dark and cool, the other bright and warm. They need each other. Without yin, yang is too harsh; without yang, yin is too mellow. They dance together, changing back and forth, keeping everything in balance. It's a simple idea, but it holds a big truth — we need balance in our lives too.
Now, I know this might sound a bit out there. It's not the kind of thing most of us learn growing up. But hear me out. Finding balance between your feminine side (that's the yin) and the masculine world you might work in (the yang) is key. I've seen it in my own life. I was the only girl in a house full of guys, and I've learned a lot about how to keep that balance.
For example, I found that dressing in a way that feels true to my womanhood and inner essence made a big difference, once I learned more about myself. Men might seem like they're all about competing, but when it comes to romance, they're not looking for a rival. They're looking for a partner, someone who complements them, not competes with them.
You might be surprised to learn that men often find softer, more feminine women more attractive. It's not just something society has made up. It goes deeper, right down to our nature.
But, some women worry. They think, "I work in the army, or I'm a lawyer, or an engineer. I can't be feminine, or I won't be respected." That's not true. Femininity isn't about weakness. It's about being strong in your own way. It's okay to show you're a real person with feelings.
Think about it like this: if you seem too tough, like nobody else can be a part of your life, it can push people away. Men like to feel needed, not like they're in a constant battle with you.
But remember, you're amazing just as you are. It's about using your natural charm to connect with people. At the end of the day, we're all human, and sometimes feelings just happen, like when you fall for someone you know isn't right for you. That's the power of attraction, and your femininity has that power too.
So let's not hide our femininity. Let's not see it as a weakness but as a strength. It's a part of who you are, and it's something to be proud of, no matter where you work or what you do. It's about finding that balance, that perfect mix of yin and yang, that makes us whole.
This is one of the major topics I work with you on in my Effortless Elegance Styling Program.
We explore how you want to be perceived and then we go about consciously crafting your image around that.
I give you a hairstyle that matches your face shape, personality style and colour profile. Then we do your personal styling, makeup and even your skin care routines. With this advanced styling system you'll be able to step out with the perfect look for minimum effort because you'll know exactly what works for your personality, body and how you want to be perceived.
Here are some of the topics we cover in the styling program.
Undergarments:
Experience personalized undergarment consultations that ensure your wardrobe reflects your unique style and comfort needs. With expert guidance in lingerie and undergarment selection, discover pieces that enhance your silhouette and provide optimal support, empowering you to feel confident from the inside out.
Style and Image Goals:
Define personalized style and image goals tailored to your aspirations and lifestyle. Collaboratively develop actionable goals to elevate your fashion journey, whether it's refining your professional image, expressing your personality, or enhancing confidence in social settings. Embark on a transformative journey to unlock your full potential and conquer every aspect of your life with style and confidence.
Style Profile:
Craft a style profile tailored to your personality, body shape, and lifestyle. Utilise this roadmap for efficient and targeted shopping, ensuring every piece enhances your individuality and maintains a cohesive look. Empower yourself with consistency, confidence, and adaptability in your appearance.
Colour Analysis:
Discover the profound impact of colour analysis on personal style and self-expression. Delve into your unique complexion and colour preferences to uncover hues that enhance your natural beauty and reflect your personality. Empower yourself to curate a wardrobe filled with shades that radiate confidence and vitality.
Haircut and Colour:
Receive a fresh new haircut and style tailored to your face shape, style profile, and personality. Integrate face shape analysis and style profiling to ensure a personalised experience that leaves you feeling beautiful and empowered.
Dress Rules:
Access tailored dress rules aligned with your style profile and lifestyle. Understand colour coordination, silhouette principles, and fabric selection to make confident fashion choices that reflect your personality and enhance your confidence.
Product Audit:
Optimise your beauty and styling routine with a personalised product audit. Evaluate your current products to streamline your routine, ensuring every product enhances your natural beauty and style, saving you time, money, and frustration.
Wardrobe Tidying:
Experience personalised wardrobe tidying. Declutter your wardrobe to create a curated collection that sparks joy and aligns with your style preferences, empowering you to feel confident and inspired every time you get dressed.
Exclusive Coaching Calls:
Access personalised coaching calls to support your transformation journey. Participate in weekly coaching sessions and additional laser sessions to address specific questions or challenges, empowering you to make meaningful progress towards your image and self-perception goals.
Signature Fragrance Night:
Indulge in an exclusive signature fragrance night experience, tailored to your preferences and style profile. Discover the perfect scent that resonates with your personality and enhances your overall image, leaving you feeling confident and empowered.
Shopping Expedition:
Enjoy a personalised shopping expedition where you'll be personally styled. Discover clothing and accessories that align with your style preferences, body shape, and lifestyle, empowering you to make confident fashion choices and build a wardrobe that reflects your true self.
Workshop Day:
Participate in two intensive workshop days focused on defining your desired image and developing actionable strategies to implement it. Explore your personality, strengths, and aspirations to shape a clear vision of your desired image and develop tailored techniques to embody it authentically.
Mindset Work:
Integrate mindset work throughout your journey to address internal blocks and limiting beliefs. Through ongoing discussions and personalised coaching, challenge negative thought patterns, cultivate self-confidence, and embrace a mindset of growth and possibility, empowering you to achieve lasting transformation.
So get in touch and start your transformation